"it’s sharing these things as they are happening, expressing your anger and anxiety and sadness while you still haven’t resolved them". - this is so beautiful and now that I reflect on this, it makes so much sense. And it's so heartwarming to see that text screenshot. So a friend like this is possible! Hmmm.
Glad I discovered this. "Adronitis" is a word (albeit a made-up one by John Koenig in his book) I learned about a while back that he defines as "the frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone." I think part of the frustration we feel is due to what's described here - the knowledge that much of the richness of a relationship can only come with time, no matter how much we try to force closeness. Well said, and beautiful piece.
Beautiful. I want to add that by showing up this way for others and allowing them to do the same, no matter what unfolds in the relationship, whether they leave you for a new city or a path that no longer twists with yours, you can smile knowing you were fully part of their life, and they yours. If even for a chapter.
my best friend passed away earlier this year I was more than struck when the people who I thought would hold me kind of just abandoned me, but there was one that did not.
I fear that friends will abandon each other in all this hyper therapy talk "you don't owe anyone anything" but yes you do owe people yourself--even at their absolute worse.
"But the right people will see you in your weakness and they’ll come and sit next to you". What a powerful illustration of true friendship -- of loving somebody for all that they are, all the time, and not just when it's easy.
"it’s sharing these things as they are happening, expressing your anger and anxiety and sadness while you still haven’t resolved them". - this is so beautiful and now that I reflect on this, it makes so much sense. And it's so heartwarming to see that text screenshot. So a friend like this is possible! Hmmm.
Glad I discovered this. "Adronitis" is a word (albeit a made-up one by John Koenig in his book) I learned about a while back that he defines as "the frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone." I think part of the frustration we feel is due to what's described here - the knowledge that much of the richness of a relationship can only come with time, no matter how much we try to force closeness. Well said, and beautiful piece.
great way to put it and thank you!
Beautiful. I want to add that by showing up this way for others and allowing them to do the same, no matter what unfolds in the relationship, whether they leave you for a new city or a path that no longer twists with yours, you can smile knowing you were fully part of their life, and they yours. If even for a chapter.
thanks dennis :) indeed, there is something special about it no matter how long it lasts
This put to words what my clustered mind has been trying to verbalise to itself for ages.
as an avoidant person, this made me tear up
This is so beautiful.
😭😭😭😭😭
my best friend passed away earlier this year I was more than struck when the people who I thought would hold me kind of just abandoned me, but there was one that did not.
I fear that friends will abandon each other in all this hyper therapy talk "you don't owe anyone anything" but yes you do owe people yourself--even at their absolute worse.
this is so real and i needed it
a good cry before i go to sleep
how dare you (this is so beautiful and I’m crying in a coffee shop)
This one made me good cry! Thankyou for writing this🌼!
I’m just going to let this yellow kite drift across my sky for a bit. Thank you kite launcher
"But the right people will see you in your weakness and they’ll come and sit next to you". What a powerful illustration of true friendship -- of loving somebody for all that they are, all the time, and not just when it's easy.
god damn this one hits. Love this piece
Kasra this warmed my heart 😭
really appreciate your support cissy!