"it’s sharing these things as they are happening, expressing your anger and anxiety and sadness while you still haven’t resolved them". - this is so beautiful and now that I reflect on this, it makes so much sense. And it's so heartwarming to see that text screenshot. So a friend like this is possible! Hmmm.
Glad I discovered this. "Adronitis" is a word (albeit a made-up one by John Koenig in his book) I learned about a while back that he defines as "the frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone." I think part of the frustration we feel is due to what's described here - the knowledge that much of the richness of a relationship can only come with time, no matter how much we try to force closeness. Well said, and beautiful piece.
Beautiful. I want to add that by showing up this way for others and allowing them to do the same, no matter what unfolds in the relationship, whether they leave you for a new city or a path that no longer twists with yours, you can smile knowing you were fully part of their life, and they yours. If even for a chapter.
"But the right people will see you in your weakness and they’ll come and sit next to you". What a powerful illustration of true friendship -- of loving somebody for all that they are, all the time, and not just when it's easy.
I've been ruminating on this exact topic, and I've always had a hard time of sharing something difficult in my life as it's happening, even to people I consider my closest friends. Yet, reading your post reminds me of how important is it to go *there* to know the right people in my life. Thank you for this. I'm feeling extra grateful for the ones who have stayed.
damn. Love this. I've only had 1 best friend. we met in class 4 and currently we're 22. He has moved out of the country for further studies and carrier but damn It still feels safe to have someone by your side.
"it’s sharing these things as they are happening, expressing your anger and anxiety and sadness while you still haven’t resolved them". - this is so beautiful and now that I reflect on this, it makes so much sense. And it's so heartwarming to see that text screenshot. So a friend like this is possible! Hmmm.
Glad I discovered this. "Adronitis" is a word (albeit a made-up one by John Koenig in his book) I learned about a while back that he defines as "the frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone." I think part of the frustration we feel is due to what's described here - the knowledge that much of the richness of a relationship can only come with time, no matter how much we try to force closeness. Well said, and beautiful piece.
great way to put it and thank you!
😭😭😭😭😭
Beautiful. I want to add that by showing up this way for others and allowing them to do the same, no matter what unfolds in the relationship, whether they leave you for a new city or a path that no longer twists with yours, you can smile knowing you were fully part of their life, and they yours. If even for a chapter.
thanks dennis :) indeed, there is something special about it no matter how long it lasts
This is so beautiful.
"But the right people will see you in your weakness and they’ll come and sit next to you". What a powerful illustration of true friendship -- of loving somebody for all that they are, all the time, and not just when it's easy.
as an avoidant person, this made me tear up
This put to words what my clustered mind has been trying to verbalise to itself for ages.
god damn this one hits. Love this piece
Kasra this warmed my heart 😭
really appreciate your support cissy!
I've been ruminating on this exact topic, and I've always had a hard time of sharing something difficult in my life as it's happening, even to people I consider my closest friends. Yet, reading your post reminds me of how important is it to go *there* to know the right people in my life. Thank you for this. I'm feeling extra grateful for the ones who have stayed.
glad to hear that :)
Okay wait stop, are TEARS about to form in my eyes? Thanks for sharing this, Kasra!
aw thanks for reading leslie!!
HITS
Beautiful piece
❤️
damn. Love this. I've only had 1 best friend. we met in class 4 and currently we're 22. He has moved out of the country for further studies and carrier but damn It still feels safe to have someone by your side.