To me, this post has been a reminder of the importance of self-care! I've personally struggled with being overly concerned about others' opinions, and I've had to learn that being comfortable with causing discomfort or upsetting others is essential for living authentically.
Storytelling time! My twin dogs both died this year. Leap year babies 12 years old each. Living separate last 2 years of their lives. One was gored to death by Zelda my favorite animal huge golden Labrador, who had to be rehoused or euthanized not sure, my granddaughter witnessed and was injured in the tussle. Zelda was protecting her. Month later my neighbor a supposed Jesus lover exploited me for my dog. She stole my wallet and tried to break into my apartment. Called management for the camera footage for the police. Nobody will do anything. No dogs! No neighbor. My family is fine but lots of collateral damage. This is my daily life! Protect my kids all!
Thank you for writing and sharing this. I’m constantly worried about hurting other’s feelings as I grow firmer in my boundaries. I’m hoping to be guilt free with more practice
‘The real remedy is to structure your life so that your fate doesn’t hinge on the whims of someone you ticked off five years ago. ‘ - wooh! I saw myself - A LOT OF myself - in the example of a person running around, chasing butterflies as a form of preventative action.
I’m saving this post to reread as a much needed reminder. Thank you for writing it!
You made my day. Not that I haven’t thought these things, and waded through endless pointless scenarios of futures that may never happen, but reading another’s view on this was badly needed. Thank you.
Beautiful essay Kasra. Reminded me of this old Eastern idea that there is no such thing as a good or bad act, since every act has an equal and opposite reaction. Good things we do have equal bad countereffects. It all remains balance. An extreme idea I'm not sure I fully believe, but endlessly interesting.
Literally one of the next topics I was contemplating! It’s helpful to hear it from all angles, because I do always make myself smaller for fear of the person I’m bothering. And I’m super sensitive to other people’s vibes so I also think my perception is amplified, to my disadvantage of having an easy time tuning it out.
People don't forgive, or forget. I've had things held against me, going on 23 years. They never let me forget it. And small minded people; it's impossible to do epic shit with them. They don't understand, or have the freedom of thought to understand. Damn it. Want life better. I'm stuck. Help!
To me, this post has been a reminder of the importance of self-care! I've personally struggled with being overly concerned about others' opinions, and I've had to learn that being comfortable with causing discomfort or upsetting others is essential for living authentically.
I think your awareness is a powerful testament to how far you've come. Good job.
Real lucid dawg. Needed this today!
<3
Hell yeah! I’m doing something right! Thanks 😊 but I do pray for my closest circle of 6 for the least amount of mitigated damage haha
Storytelling time! My twin dogs both died this year. Leap year babies 12 years old each. Living separate last 2 years of their lives. One was gored to death by Zelda my favorite animal huge golden Labrador, who had to be rehoused or euthanized not sure, my granddaughter witnessed and was injured in the tussle. Zelda was protecting her. Month later my neighbor a supposed Jesus lover exploited me for my dog. She stole my wallet and tried to break into my apartment. Called management for the camera footage for the police. Nobody will do anything. No dogs! No neighbor. My family is fine but lots of collateral damage. This is my daily life! Protect my kids all!
Thank you for writing and sharing this. I’m constantly worried about hurting other’s feelings as I grow firmer in my boundaries. I’m hoping to be guilt free with more practice
Raw. Honest. Incisive. And wonderful.
‘The real remedy is to structure your life so that your fate doesn’t hinge on the whims of someone you ticked off five years ago. ‘ - wooh! I saw myself - A LOT OF myself - in the example of a person running around, chasing butterflies as a form of preventative action.
I’m saving this post to reread as a much needed reminder. Thank you for writing it!
Just the early evening read I needed. Thanks!
You made my day. Not that I haven’t thought these things, and waded through endless pointless scenarios of futures that may never happen, but reading another’s view on this was badly needed. Thank you.
Beautiful essay Kasra. Reminded me of this old Eastern idea that there is no such thing as a good or bad act, since every act has an equal and opposite reaction. Good things we do have equal bad countereffects. It all remains balance. An extreme idea I'm not sure I fully believe, but endlessly interesting.
thank you Tommy! fascinating idea
This struck a cord in me.
*deep exhale* oof. i needed this reminder.
Great post, Kasra
wow, I needed this one
Literally one of the next topics I was contemplating! It’s helpful to hear it from all angles, because I do always make myself smaller for fear of the person I’m bothering. And I’m super sensitive to other people’s vibes so I also think my perception is amplified, to my disadvantage of having an easy time tuning it out.
This is great for recovering people pleasers!
People don't forgive, or forget. I've had things held against me, going on 23 years. They never let me forget it. And small minded people; it's impossible to do epic shit with them. They don't understand, or have the freedom of thought to understand. Damn it. Want life better. I'm stuck. Help!