To me, this post has been a reminder of the importance of self-care! I've personally struggled with being overly concerned about others' opinions, and I've had to learn that being comfortable with causing discomfort or upsetting others is essential for living authentically.
Literally one of the next topics I was contemplating! It’s helpful to hear it from all angles, because I do always make myself smaller for fear of the person I’m bothering. And I’m super sensitive to other people’s vibes so I also think my perception is amplified, to my disadvantage of having an easy time tuning it out.
Thank you for writing and sharing this. I’m constantly worried about hurting other’s feelings as I grow firmer in my boundaries. I’m hoping to be guilt free with more practice
‘The real remedy is to structure your life so that your fate doesn’t hinge on the whims of someone you ticked off five years ago. ‘ - wooh! I saw myself - A LOT OF myself - in the example of a person running around, chasing butterflies as a form of preventative action.
I’m saving this post to reread as a much needed reminder. Thank you for writing it!
You made my day. Not that I haven’t thought these things, and waded through endless pointless scenarios of futures that may never happen, but reading another’s view on this was badly needed. Thank you.
Beautiful essay Kasra. Reminded me of this old Eastern idea that there is no such thing as a good or bad act, since every act has an equal and opposite reaction. Good things we do have equal bad countereffects. It all remains balance. An extreme idea I'm not sure I fully believe, but endlessly interesting.
To me, this post has been a reminder of the importance of self-care! I've personally struggled with being overly concerned about others' opinions, and I've had to learn that being comfortable with causing discomfort or upsetting others is essential for living authentically.
I think your awareness is a powerful testament to how far you've come. Good job.
Real lucid dawg. Needed this today!
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Literally one of the next topics I was contemplating! It’s helpful to hear it from all angles, because I do always make myself smaller for fear of the person I’m bothering. And I’m super sensitive to other people’s vibes so I also think my perception is amplified, to my disadvantage of having an easy time tuning it out.
Thank you for writing and sharing this. I’m constantly worried about hurting other’s feelings as I grow firmer in my boundaries. I’m hoping to be guilt free with more practice
Raw. Honest. Incisive. And wonderful.
‘The real remedy is to structure your life so that your fate doesn’t hinge on the whims of someone you ticked off five years ago. ‘ - wooh! I saw myself - A LOT OF myself - in the example of a person running around, chasing butterflies as a form of preventative action.
I’m saving this post to reread as a much needed reminder. Thank you for writing it!
You made my day. Not that I haven’t thought these things, and waded through endless pointless scenarios of futures that may never happen, but reading another’s view on this was badly needed. Thank you.
Great exploration on how our fear of disapproval can influence/shape our lives. Cheers!
What is the most good I can do given the inevitable harm of my actions .. that’s it.
Needed this solid reminder, thank you. I appreciate your thoughts.
Beautiful essay Kasra. Reminded me of this old Eastern idea that there is no such thing as a good or bad act, since every act has an equal and opposite reaction. Good things we do have equal bad countereffects. It all remains balance. An extreme idea I'm not sure I fully believe, but endlessly interesting.
thank you Tommy! fascinating idea
This struck a cord in me.
*deep exhale* oof. i needed this reminder.
Great post, Kasra
wow, I needed this one
This is great for recovering people pleasers!